My Story: How I Was Scammed
A detailed account of 9 months of manipulation and financial exploitation
🇪🇸How We Met
We met in Spain through a dating app and went out several times. Everything seemed normal initially - we even traveled to Madrid together with her mother. I paid for a dinner they hosted, and later invited them to see "The Book of Mormon" musical, which I paid for. This felt like a natural exchange of hospitality at the time.
🎭The Manipulation Begins
After she returned to Chile, we continued talking. However, she then claimed I had done something wrong during our time in Spain. When I asked what I had supposedly done, she refused to explain but continued discussing other topics. This left me feeling guilty and confused, which I now realize was intentional manipulation designed to lower my defenses. Later, I discovered that I had done nothing wrong - she fabricated this accusation to make me feel guilty and compliant.
💰The First Financial Request
While things appeared to be going well, she mentioned Arabic dance classes she wanted to attend. After bringing this up several times and eventually sending me the price, she asked me to pay for it. The cost was €300, which I considered reasonable for a gift, so I sent her the money. This was my first mistake and the beginning of a pattern.
🇨🇱The Trip to Chile: My Biggest Regret
I decided to visit her in Santiago, Chile - a decision I now deeply regret. Before the trip, she requested expensive designer clothing, which I purchased thinking they would be meaningful gifts. However, once I arrived in Chile, the true extent of her manipulation became apparent.
During my three-week stay, she systematically deceived me about her background, family, and lifestyle. Her manipulation tactics included:
- •Avoiding any confrontational conversations to prevent me from questioning her behavior
- •Creating expectations that I would pay for everything without directly asking
- •Demanding extravagant dates costing up to €600 per day
- •Insisting on expensive transportation (Uber everywhere) and acting upset when I suggested public transit
- •Fabricating stories about her wealthy family and friends who supposedly bought her expensive things regularly
- •Creating elaborate narratives that made me feel obligated to buy her jewelry and other expensive items
- •Requesting a new iPhone 17
The amount of money I spent on her during those three weeks was staggering, all obtained through emotional manipulation and lies about her circumstances. Her excuse for expecting me to pay for everything was that she was 'traditional' and wanted to get married, so the man should provide.
🔄The Ongoing Scam Pattern
After I returned home, the pattern continued for nine months:
- 1She would reach out with emotional messages about missing me
- 2Create a crisis or urgent need requiring money
- 3Use guilt and emotional manipulation when I hesitated
- 4After receiving what she wanted, she would ghost me completely
- 5The cycle would repeat when she needed more money
Throughout this period, she made numerous false promises about wanting a future together and starting a life with me. Her entire personality appeared to be fabricated and optimized for manipulation. Every interaction was designed to extract money from me while providing nothing genuine in return.
🚨 Warning Signs to Watch For
Recognize these red flags to protect yourself
Avoids direct confrontation or answering specific questions about her behavior
Creates false guilt by claiming you've wronged her without providing specifics
Makes indirect requests for money or expensive gifts
Claims to have wealthy family/friends to justify expensive lifestyle expectations
Ghosts you after receiving money or gifts, then returns later with new requests
Makes promises about a future together to maintain emotional control
Expects you to pay for everything during dates and activities
Becomes upset or manipulative when you suggest less expensive alternatives
📸 Evidence Gallery
Photos of the scammer
